Nothing is ever perfect, not even how we bring up our kids, or how we were brought up. But what truly matters is that it was all done in good faith. It is hard to know what your kid needs at all times, but what you can do, at least, is learn with the generation.
The way we were brought up is clearly very different from how kids ought to be taken care of today. The times have changed, and so we must modify what we know to suit their requirements.
You Are Their First Example : Make A Positive One
Ever seen a kid play ‘house’? That’s when you realize that a kid watches everything you do, remembers it and then enacts the same. Now think about what you did all day, what you don’t want your child to repeat, now don’t do it in front of them.
They learn from watching us, so even during moments of anger, think before you do something that will influence them in any way.
The Toys You Get Them Is Not Equivalent Of Love
I’ve seen way too many parents tell me their kid is spoiled cause they are loved by all. But as I see a four year old with all the gadgets I couldn’t imagine when I was little, I refuse to believe it’s love that has spoiled them.
More often than not, we evaluate our love for them by the material possessions we are able to shower them with.
Want to spoil them with love? Spend time with them, play with them, go out with them. You can never spoil a child with too much love and care.
Grow As They Grow
Your kids are supposed to grow, not just in height and weight, their emotional and mental recesses are going to expand with time. As a parent you have to accept as your child grows and moves out of what you have taught them.
Their questions aren’t meant to question your authority, they are inquisitive about life. This means they’ll have opposing ideas and might begin sharing them with you or even get into arguments with you. But this is the independence they need to learn, and you can help them by being receptive to their interactions.
Even after they turn adults, you might want some level of control over their lives. Instead, go for a healthy relationship.
If someday you find out about their use of marijuana, what would you do? Have a dispute with them or look for the best delta-8 gummies you can find as a healthy substitute and enjoy some bonding time with them?
Make And Set Rules
Your child’s behavior is your responsibility. And it is extremely impressionable when young. It’s necessary to set some boundaries and rules to make clear distinctions about what they can or cannot do.
But just making rules isn’t enough. Explain to them why a certain rule has been set and what would happen if they don’t follow it.
Clear communication shows that you respect each other, and reduces the chances of your child acting out in retaliation.
Punish Them: But Not Physically
Under no circumstance is beating or spanking the answer to disobedience. If your child breaks a rule, there are different ways to punish them. Making them do (easy) chores around the house (clean their room or mow the lawn), keeping them in timeout or keeping them grounded for a few days depending on what they’ve done.
Physical punishments can be a reason for aggression in your child and lead them to act it out with others when they get angry.
Remember the first point? Your kids learn from you. Maybe these physical punishments are what you were subjected to as a child and you’re bringing it down as a tradition. But always choose non- violent ways to punish them.
Foster Their Independence
As they grow older, they’ll need more space, physically and emotionally. You cannot hold onto them all the time and need to learn the right time to give them space.
Kids want independence, some level of autonomy over their life. That’s how they start going to school themselves, learn to do their homework without your help, and eventually move out to live on their own.
They’re not trying to be rebellious, they just want some control over their life.
Respect Your Child
It all comes down to this. While you foster a good relationship based on love and respect with your partner, your parents, your friends and even your colleagues, you must do the same with your child.
When your child isn’t obligated to respect you and receives it as well, it helps maintain a healthier relationship.
Creating a healthy environment for your child’s growth is hard work, but definitely achievable. The idea is to respect and treat them as an equal, lacking in age and experience but still a person with ideas and perceptions. When you stop treating your child as the subject of your dominance & start treating them as someone you love and want to establish a healthy relationship with; positive parenting is just around the corner.
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